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24 And when her days to be delivered were fulfilled, behold, there were twins in her womb.
25 And the first came out red, all over like an hairy garment; and they called his name Esau.
26 And after that came his brother out, and his hand took hold on Esau’s heel; and his name was called Jacob: and Isaac was threescore years old when she bare them.
27 And the boys grew: and Esau was a cunning hunter, a man of the field; and Jacob was a plain man, dwelling in tents.
28 And Isaac loved Esau, because he did eat of his venison: but Rebekah loved Jacob.
Genesis 25:24-28

When considering the story of Jacob and Esau, the sons of Isaac and Rebekah, we can clearly see the fruit of parenting gone wrong.  A story of sibling rivalry beginning in the womb (verse 26) but instigated by parental favoritism.

All siblings, twins or not, are completely different from one another in temperament, habits, tendencies, likes, and dislikes to name a few.  Its amazing to see how family members can be complete opposites, even though they are from the same parents and/or same family tree.  Jacob and Esau, as twins, were no exception to this fact. (verse 27)

Observing such differences within our children may sometimes lead us as parents to seemingly grow strong affinity to one child over another, as did Rebekah and Isaac. (verse 28)  Rebekah being more of a nurturer in her family favored Jacob, the son whom shared similar characteristics to her own.  While Isaac, being the head of the household and possibly more of a rugged individual, enjoyed being in the presence and receiving the benefits of his favored son Esau, the hunter.

This story is evidence that playing favorites in a family can be a huge contributor to much heartache among its members.  Ecclesiastes 1:9 states “there is no new thing under the sun.”  Therefore the same will be true in our families as well if we allow for the spirit of favoritism to cause its ugly dissension.  Rebekah’s playing favorites not only encouraged the dishonoring of a patriarch, but encouraged deceit among its members, cultivated animosity and hatred, and thereby resulting in a family member being exiled.  

This idea of favoritism didn’t stop there, as it seemed engrained in Jacob to do the same among his own children in favoring Joseph above the rest (Genesis 37:3).  The vicious cycle continued and the bearing of evil fruit was its result.  So much so that Joseph’s brothers sold him into slavery and lied to their father that their brother was deceased…How sad!  While God was able to turn what the devil meant for evil for everyone’s good, just imagine if none of these sinful practices were present in this family.  Imagine the testimonies these families could have had, had they all lived lives completely surrendered to God and not played favorites.

The bible gives clear direction for parents in reference to favoritism.  Colossians 3:25 is an important text to bring to light because we see in many stories of the families in the bible, that a “favored” child seemed to be exempt from parental punishment for wrong actions.  James 2:9 admonishes people that “if ye have respect to persons, ye commit sin, and are convinced of the law as transgressors.”  All this is imperative to put into practice, especially among our family members because Romans 2:11 states “For there is no respect of persons with God.”  God does not play favorites among His children and neither should we.  [see also:  Proverbs 24:23; Proverbs 28:21a1 Peter 1:17].

As we prayerfully lead our children in the way of the Lord, let us be very mindful that we do not become a respecter of persons among them based on their temperaments and behaviors.  While one child may seem more lovable and another may not exude that constitution, the one who lacks needs even more love so his/her character may become more amiable and receptive to the word and power of God.  Let us as parents remember our home is our first mission field.  Let us minister among our immediate family.  Let us remember to lead everyone in the way of the Lord.  Let us realize that no matter how we may personally perceive someone in our household,  we are all level at the foot of the cross.  We are all sinners in need of a loving Savior and no one should be a respecter of persons favoring one child over another.

 

God Bless,

Family Blueprint

 

See Note:  PP 142.3 and 142.4

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Obedience – Love or Fear?

“If ye love me, keep my commandments.” – John 14:15

When contemplating the idea of John 14:15 that when we love God as our Father we will obey His commandments; makes me wonder can this text also refer to our parental relationship with our children?   When our children understand wholeheartedly the concept of true godly love, will they have the desire to obey our commandments and directions?  The answer should be a resounding….YES!

We are to be a reflection of God to our children.  The idea of children learning to submit to God and obey Him is first taught by them learning and submitting to their parents/guardians.  The admonishment given to children found in Ephesian 6:1-3 states:  “1Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.  Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.”  Now, parents, this doesn’t give us the right to be overly strict or absolutely unreasonable in our commands, we have to give commands within reason.

1 John 5:3 states:  “For this is the love of God, that we keep [H]is commandments: and [H]is commandments are not grievous.”  When defining the word GRIEVIOUS it states:  “1causing or characterized by severe pain, suffering, or sorrow; 2oppressive”.  Considering the text with the definition it leads to the conclusion that, when we have the love of God in our hearts, His commands/admonishment found in His Word will not be grievous to us.  Shouldn’t that same concept apply to our children as well?  When the love of God is in our hearts our requests will not be disproportionate to the ability of our children and they will have the desire to obey because they love us and want the best for us as well.

When the love of God is in our hearts,  and the hearts of our children, we will not have a bellowing, frightening dictatorial voice among each other.  We as parents will not give the “typical” parental threats of “you better obey or else…timeout, grounding, spanking, etc” When the love of God is in everyone’s heart and overflowing, the tone of our houses will be different from those who know not God.  The reason for this contrast will be because our hearts will all be drown closer to Christ and inevitably closer to one another.

1 John 4:18 states:  “18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.”  When the love of God is in our hearts fear / anxiety cannot reside there.  The bible says perfect love casts out all fear.  The only way to obtain this perfect love is through the indwelling of the Holy Spirit.  1 John 4:12 states:  “12 No man hath seen God at any time. If we love one another, God dwelleth in us, and His love is perfected in us.”  Now lets make this clear, love does not mean we should be overindulgent, but that’s another blog in itself. 🙂

When things go wrong in our house:  children disobeying, not obeying right away, bickering, overall being disagreeable; are we as parents allowing for the love of God to constrain (2 Cor 5:14) us from having these bellowing, frightening dictatorial tones to conciliate the tempest?  Or do we allow for the devil to take hold of us too?  Thereby manifesting Satan in our own hearts by using force or anger in response to situations.  When children are showing unChristlike characteristics, it means there is a heart problem that needs to be recognized and restored.  They are disconnected and need our help not exasperation.

Prayerfully from this day forward, let us as parents realize we are not living on the cruise ship of life, but rather a battleship enduring the battles of spiritual warfare for our family’s souls.  Our “adversary the devil, [is] as a roaring lion, [walking] about, seeking whom he may devour:” – 1 Peter 5:8 Let us therefore cast all our care upon God because He truly cares for us and desires our entire family to be saved.  We must be sober and vigilant so we may recognize when the enemy is coming into our household like a flood.  Let us watch and pray, claiming Gods promises so that He may lift up a standard against the devil on our behalf during these trying times.  Let us be mindful as parents/guardians, that we are to teach our children obedience out of love for God and not fear of us.

 

God Bless,

Family Blueprint

A Parent’s Weapon of Warfare

As Christian parents, it seems like we wait to train our kids to turn to God in prayer and depend upon Him and His help in situations.  I’ve always wondered why we wait until our children are tweens/teenagers before we start asking them “Have you prayed about your situation/decision first?”  Why don’t we train them from young, babyhood even, to always turn to God in prayer first?

One thing my husband and I have been trying to consistently implement recently with our children is “ALWAYS pray first”.  When the child(ren) are being obstinate, instead of getting frustrated as the parent and possibly being reactive, PRAY FIRST.  When that almost two year old is having that fit because they want cake instead of vegetables (my situation yesterday), PRAY FIRST.  When the child(ren) are fighting or being argumentative, instead of engaging the battle with your own weapons of warfare (i.e. visible frustration, discipline, yelling, arguing, etc.) use God’s weapon and PRAY FIRST.

Don’t walk away from the situation thinking it will resolve itself (unless you can’t control your own self, which is another issue).  Don’t engage the situation with anger or visible frustration but engage it with prayer.  When it comes to your children, pray with them, pray for them & allow them to do it themselves, repeating after you if possible/necessary.  If we believe that prayer can change our situations as adults (whether employment, financial, relationships, etc.) why do we not believe that SAME God can fix this emotional roller coaster/tirade with our children?  Will the battle be vehement?  YES!! When is a battle not?  Will it require patience and effort?  YES!!  When do situations not?  Will the warfare require consistency and endurance?  YES!!  When do wars not?  Will the engagements be many?  POSSIBLY!!!  How many wars have you seen end in one battle/engagement alone?

Many times as Christan parents we pray “I need patience God”, “help me with forgiveness Jesus”, “increase my faith Lord”, and I can go down the list but when the trials come to help us learn to depend upon God’s strength and help, we result to our old measures of self instead of prayer first, dependence, then walking by faith.  Then we wonder why our children don’t depend on Jesus and turn to Him first either. (God just hit me over the head with that sentence…man!)  James 1:3-6 says “Knowing this , that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.  If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.”

One day we were at a park with some friends, this was in the beginning of our “ALWAYS pray first” journey.  One of our friends’ daughters ran off and wasn’t listening to anyone when told to come back.  My husband said he would go after her.  We watched the scene unfold, but he later told us she had ran up some stairs and was standing their with her arms folded refusing to come down (the battle).  He said he was arguing with her to obey and come down (his own weapon of warfare).  Of course she refused as a typical 2/3 year old child would. My husband he said he could see her visibly getting more obstinate by the minute.  He then remembered our newly formed implementation.  So he told her that he was going to pray for her to allow Jesus in her heart (God’s weapon of choice), and he did out loud.  By the time he was finished she was smiling, coming down the stairs, then grabbed his hand and skipped all the way back to our group.  The power of prayer!

Last night we were at a dinner after a funeral, my kids were happily eating their food when my husband brought over what everyone thought was cake.  The battle then ensued.  While my 6 and 3.5 year old both knew food first then dessert, my almost 2 year old wanted it right then.  She then let everyone know her distaste for our choice to make her eat her vegetables first.  I attempted to speak to her calmly and rationally (my weapon of warfare), which didn’t accomplish much.  I then removed her from the situation (the cake), and began to pray for myself that God would give me the patience and fortitude to deal with the over emotional, loud tirad.  After I prayed for myself first, silently,then I prayed for her in her hearing (God’s weapon of choice).  Did she immediately change?  Not quite, after prayer she was still upset and asking for comfort items to get me distracted.  I calmly repeated to her that she would not have cake and was going to eat her vegetables.  Then in faith, claiming the promise that God would work on her, I went back to my seat, sat her in my lap and began to feed her.  She ate every last one of her vegetables AND some of her brothers food…The power of prayer!

People may be saying, why are you relating parenting to a battle/warfare?  Because we, with God’s help, are battling against Satan for the souls of our children.  Who will win?  Who’s side will our children eventually take allegiance with due to our efforts and example?  2 Corinthians 10:4-6 says [4] (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) [5] Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; [6] And having in a readiness to revenge all disobedience, when your obedience is fulfilled.  That text to me sums up parenting.  We cannot use our own weapons (anger, hostility, yelling, harsh words & tones, etc) when trying to save our children, we must “ALWAYS pray first”.  We have to put our thoughts/imagination and self aside and stop thinking we can do better than God or know more than Him in parenting.  We need to raise the white flag and surrender our will (what we THINK should happen to/with our child(ren)) to God.  When all that is said and done, we can and will revenge (meaning defeat) all disobedience, using God’s method, but only once our obedience to Him is fulfilled.

God Bless,

The Family Blueprint

In this generation

Raising children in this day and age is difficult; especially when society is swiftly changing to go against everything you stand for as a parent.  Most parents don’t want their children being gangsters or murderers, however, much music and television of today glorifies the lifestyle.

I’m not only speaking about music like “gangster” rap, I’m also speaking about music like death metal, yes that is classified as a music genre.  Most parents want their daughters to have self-respect and honor their bodies in dress and deportment, as it is a precious temple (1 Corinthians 6:19-20) not to be taken advantage of.  However, when their innocent daughters look at TV, magazines and in clothing stores and even in coloring books, being “lady-like” and/or childlike seems like a thing of the past, and old fashioned.  While as a parent you may desire your children to be good and amazing citizens, they are being bombarded with just the opposite.

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We live in a society that “call[s] evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!” – Isaiah 5:20 KJV  We live in a society in which a little girl could get ridiculed for covering her body with clothing, because society is saying “be free” which equates to “expose yourself to the limit and no one better say anything”.  We live in a society in which speaking clearly and correctly is deemed as  distancing yourself from your “culture”.  We live in a society that preaches no rules, and if you live your life with self-control/self-restraint your in deemed as being in bondage or suppressed.

The real prevailing issue with our society is the same issue that happened in the days of old, found in the book of Judges in the bible.  The crux of the matter is this “In those days there was no king in Israel: every man did that which was right in his own eyes.” – Judges 21:25 KJV.  While Israel didn’t have an “official” human king, God was desiring to be their King and lead them.  However, due to their unbelief and doubt they didn’t allow God to rule.  Same with society today, in this generation there is so much doubt and unbelief in God that people don’t desire Him to lead them in their lives.  Therefore people are just “following their hearts” or “doing what is right in their own eyes”, or “being free”.  Yet everyone wants to condemn the thief, the pedophile, the homosexual, the drunkard, the abuser, the fornicator, and the adulterer, but fail to realize they are just “following their hearts” and desires like everyone else.  The issue with everyone following their hearts is they are not realizing that everyone’s “heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it? – Jeremiah 17:9  

The only way as Christian parents to live and raise children in this generation is to “be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”  – Romans 12:2 KJV.  As Christian parents, you yourself must “love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. […].” – 1 John 2:15  By our example we must show our children how to stand for the right, for what God desires of them, living in this generation even though it seems like they are going against the grain.

If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you. John 15:19

For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul? – Matthew 16:26

God Bless,

Family Blueprint

Parental Legacy:  Curse or Blessing?

We inherit many things from our parents:  phrases, tone, inflection, body language, tendencies, likes & dislikes just to name a few.

For instance, when my mother was pregnant with me she loved to eat pizza and mashed potatoes and drink root beer.  As a child these became some of my favorite and most requested foods and drink items.  Even today, I still LOVE potatoes.  I have passed on that love to my daughter.

My husband dislikes any sort of condiment, even the vegan imitations (relish, ketchup, mustard, store bought salad dressing, etc.), and he has passed on that distaste to my son (we don’t really eat them in our family anyway).  My son however has taken it to the next level and doesn’t even like vegan butter on his homemade bread or toast, he wants it plain and dry.

If we can pass on simple likes and dislikes to our children what about our cultivated or hereditary tendencies?  What about our explosive anger?  Our gossiping?  Our exaggerated story telling?  Our lies (even the white ones)? Our provocative behavior? Our aggressive manner? Our expletive speech?…and many more…

Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, and that will by no means clear the guilty ; visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children, and upon the children’s children, unto the third and to the fourth generation. – Exodus 34:7 KJV

So many times as parents we are disciplining our children because they are acting JUST LIKE US!  We sometimes tend to have a “do as I say” mentality, not a “do as I do”.  However, if we as parents are not overcoming those behaviors in our own lives how can we expect our children to?  The answer is, we can’t.  They obtained these behaviors from us, cultivated or hereditary, and they need to be able to see victory/overcoming/change from us in our own lives so they can have it too.
If our children look at our lives and can say that the God we profess to serve hasn’t helped us any, how can He help them?  We need a change.

We need to pray.  We need to seek God’s face.  We need to study His word.  We need to surrender.  We need victory!

The bible says to “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” – James 4:7 KJV So when the enemy comes in like a flood, submit unto God and allow Him to lift up a standard against it.  Once our children are able to see that surrendering to God can not only fix situations, but change mommy and daddy; think of the lasting impact that it will have towards their belief of what God can do for them in their own lives.

It will be life changing.

God Bless,

Family Blueprint


THOUGHT FOR THE DAY:  The Law of Heredity—The physical and mental condition of the parents is perpetuated in their offspring. This is a matter that is not duly considered. Wherever the habits of the parents are contrary to physical law, the injury done to themselves will be repeated in the future generations…. – {AH 172.1}

By physical, mental, and moral culture all may become co-workers with Christ. Very much depends upon the parents. It lies with them whether they shall bring into the world children who will prove a blessing or a curse. – {AH 172.2}

A Family Foundation

The foundation of a home impacts the entire family in every facet of their lives.  

In the Christian home the bible instructs us, in Deuteronomy 6, that the foundation should be based off of “the commandments, the statutes, and the judgments, which the Lord your God commanded to teach you, that ye might do them in the land whither ye go to possess it:” (vs. 1).

In a nutshell the commandments, statues and judgments were put in place to teach the children of Israel to […] love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.” (vs. 5), that they shall be in thine heart:” (vs. 6) forever.  

Now when something is kept in our hearts, how do we treat it?  If its something positive, we treasure it so much that we always think about it.  Not only do we think about it constantly, we love to tell everyone that we come into contact with about it.  “We speak that we do know, and testify that we have seen;” (John 3:11)  Almost like we become the best spokesperson or advertisement for this thing that we love, cherish and desire so much.

Well, God is longing for us to have that same love and desire that we have for temporal earthly things for heavenly things.  He desires that we will love Him so much, that we will always speak about those things we know will please Him.  He yearns that we not only speak about them, but that will apply them to our daily lives, and not just on the Sabbath.  By being a daily witness, we won’t be able to help but to teach them diligently unto [our] children, and shalt talk of them when [we] sittest in thine house, and when [we] walkest by the way, and when [we] liest down, and when [we] risest up.” (vs. 7).

He desires us to “bind [the commandments and statutes] for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes.” (vs. 8)  That we will allow God to be a leading force in how we conduct ourselves in our work (using our hands), and what we set before our eyes.  “I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes:” (Psalm 101:3) 

Lastly, God wants us to write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates.” ( vs. 9).  So that when people come into your sphere of influence, they will not have to question where you stand; the evidence of your conviction will be ever present before anyone ever steps foot into your realm.  Truth of the matter is, God wants us to not only be a contagious Christians outside the home, but first and foremost be one inside the home.  Our children need to see an example of an infectious Christian in us, first, so that they themselves can model and be one inside and outside the home as well.

God needs for all His followers to be able to have the same testimony that He had for Abraham:  “For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the Lord, to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.” – Genesis 18:19

Good needs for His God fearing families to say “if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom ye will serve; […] but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” – Joshua 24:15

God needs for His professing families to understand their foundation and that “[e]xcept the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it […]” – Psalm 127:1

God wants us to lay our family foundation on Him as parents, and then to teach our children how to obtain that same foundation not only by precept but by our example.  So that in the end, when He returns He will be able to say “Well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.” – Matthew 25:21

God Bless,

Family Blueprint

based on Adventist Home “The Home Beautiful”

Why do I homeschool?

The main question and comment I receive over and over again together:  “Why do you homeschool?  Especially when your husband is a school teacher”

Initially I began to do it because my husband asked me to do it.  It was based on his own personal experience and study; it was honestly his own conviction.  In the beginning, it wasn’t mine, however it has become mine own conviction now.

The more I study the word of God and Spirit of Prophecy and see what God desires of us in this world and the way society is changing, my question became “how can I NOT homeschool?”

First, we live in a society that the color of your skin (even whether you are fair or darker toned) determines how you are treated.  This treatment has such a far reaching effect, so much so that children are beginning to not love the way that God made them due to the “societal norm” of what they are made to believe the standard of beauty is.  I want my children to understand the world’s definition of beauty is not our standard.  I want my children to know God made everyone different and beautiful in His image.

Second, we live in a society that lacks morality.  So many children seem to be enduring physical, mental and sexual abuse not only by adults but other children as well. Granted people may say you can’t save/protect your children from any and every thing.  My response to that is:  My children, they are my gift LOANED of by God.  Therefore it IS my responsibility to guard them in every aspect:  emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually as best I can.

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Lastly, I home-school because the spirituality, in terms of true Christianity, of this society is nearly nonexistent.  The bible says in 2 Corinthians 6:14 “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”  This text is not only referring to marriages, but ALL relationships.  What are those popular phrases?: “Birds of a feather flock together” or “Show me your friends and I will show you your future.”

If we are associating our children with other children and/or teachers who are unbelievers, we are RISKING their own personal salvation with God.  To me, that’s not worth the risk just for a “traditional” education.  Now I’m not demeaning “traditional” education, as my husband, mother and tons of family are school teachers, as well as some families have no other choice but to send their children.  God can and will work with those families as long as they are faithful and diligent stewards over their little flock when they do have them.  But for me, having a choice and being a Christian parent I purposefully am constantly instilling my beliefs into my child.  What if I then had to send him/her approximately for 8 hours per day to be instructed by someone who doesn’t believe as I do and around children who don’t live as we do…Where lies the greater influence?

What if all I had that was remotely spiritually influential was a 30 minute worship in the morning and evening?  My influence would be minuscule in comparison to the influence that they would be receiving at school for 8 hours per day.  These are the very reasons why I hear many parents, when they finally get their children home for extended periods of time can say things like this:  “who are you?” “Why do you act this way?”, “I don’t know where they are getting this from…”…I have even heard some say “it’s like I don’t even know them”. The truth is, unfortunately, as their parent they more than likely do not know them or what happens to them throughout an entire day.  Even though you may be the parent/guardian, you are not their greatest influence for a majority of their time.  Unless you make that contentious, earnest, unwavering, prayerful effort to ask questions and listen to them, so you can know and instruct in righteousness, unfortunately the parents may have no influence at all.

To me, my child’s salvation is not worth these unfortunate eternal salvific risks and that’s why I home-school.

POWERFUL QUOTE:

The church has a special work to do in educating and training its children that they may not, in attending school or in any other association, be influenced by those of corrupt habits. The world is full of iniquity and disregard of the requirements of God. The cities have become as Sodom, and our children are daily exposed to many evils. Those who attend the public [or private] schools often associate with others more neglected than they, those who, aside from the time spent in the schoolroom, are left to obtain a street education. The hearts of the young are easily impressed; and unless their surroundings are of the right character, Satan will use these neglected children to influence those who are more carefully trained. Thus, before Sabbathkeeping parents know what is being done, the lessons of depravity are learned, and the souls of their little ones are corrupted. … – {Counsels to Parents, Teachers, and Students, page 173, paragraph 1}

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Follow the Leader

Fathers and mothers need to understand their responsibility. The world is full of snares for the feet of the young. Multitudes are attracted by a life of selfish and sensual pleasure. They cannot discern the hidden dangers or the fearful ending of the path that seems to them the way of happiness. Through the indulgence of appetite and passion, their energies are wasted, and millions are ruined for this world and for the world to come. Parents should remember that their children must encounter these temptations. Even before the birth of the child, the preparation should begin that will enable it to fight successfully the battle against evil. [2] – {CG 21.2}

This quote really hit home for me in the sense that all parents need to wake up to their responsibility in actually parenting their children. I think so many times we get caught up being busy around our kids that we forget they need guidance through life. I know as a stay at home mom, I get very busy with lessons, book work, cooking, cleaning, laundry and so on that sometimes I forget I need to be more “present” for my children. Yes we do all sit around the table for every meal, and for the most part no electronics are allowed, but even then sometimes my mind is racing on “what do I need to do next?”. A good friend of mine said recently “Shanae, as a mom don’t you think you spend more time around your children than with your children? It’s something to think about isn’t it?” It was and IS still something that I think about and am praying by God’s grace to change. There are so many distractions and temptations the devil has ready for not only me but my children. If I am not actively present in my child’s life to help guide them between right and wrong, how will they know? If sin for us as adults looks so appealing, how do we as parents think it can/will affect our children?  No matter how small their temptations may be at the moment, small stepping stones lead to a larger slippery slope.

We must be diligent stewards first in our own lives, overcoming temptation, so that we can rightly train our children, not only by words but by our example to overcome their temptations. If we as mother and father cannot control our tempers or appetite, how are our children supposed to learn self-control in those areas? Seems like hypocrisy doesn’t it? Hypocrisy is one of the main things that turns any and everyone off of Christianity especially children who can see right through us. An amazing quote I read said “Train up a child in the way he should go, but make sure you are going that way yourself…”

Lets all pray by faith we can lay hold on the promises to not only train our children properly, but set the example we wish for them to follow.

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. – Proverbs 22:6

Back to the Basics

My journey through parenting has not been the best or easiest.  It honestly has been the most difficult part in my life.  Yet, it has taught me so much about myself, and shown me areas in my life in which Christ has a lot of work to do, and I need to just submit to Him.

In going back to the basics in my own parenting journey, I am reading the bible along with the book Child Guidance (cover to cover, finally!!  🙂 ), and would love to post some pertinent topics that touched me and pray they bless you as well though your own parenting journey or if you are thinking about becoming a parent.

I HIGHLY advise reading first the bible, but also the book Child Guidance for yourself.

Stay tuned!

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. – Proverbs 22:6